Love dare day 10

Do something out of the ordinary today for you spouse - something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash her car, Clean the kitchen, buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.

Reflexion questions: Has your love in the past been based on your spouse's attributes and behaviour, or on your commitment? Humm excellent question. I would have to say that my love or should I say, the demonstration of my love has been based on my wife's attributes and behaviours most of the time. It's quite a challenge to stay focused on creating a 10/10 relationship when you are angry, irritated or just tired of your spouse's behaviours.

The fun thing that I'm realising is that even though I thought she was the problem, most of the time, I was the problem or at least not part of the solution. Being more focused on your commitment allows you to see things completely differently, just like today, where I found this dare to be quite challenging. I was very tired and brain dead. I just wanted a day off and I found myself ressisting to demonstrate an "out of the ordinary" action.

However, I got over myself and offered my wife a massage. This might not seem like much, but to her and to me this is huge, for I had lost the desir to give massages. Funny thing, before this action, I was tired and cranky. After offering the massage, I am more energetic, more patiente and a lot happier. What a notice.

2nd reflexion question: How can I continue to show love when it's not returned in a way I hoped for? Well, understanding why I'm doing this, that I'm the only one responsible for what I want, want to do and how I want to live.

Good night.