Love dare day 17

Determine to guard your mate's secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or to you) and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse, and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share perosnal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.

Questions: How much of an effort is it for you to hold back from saying something, critical or otherwise? What have you learned about your spouse today, simply from listening?

Yes I have had a lot of trouble not to give advice when anyone speaks actually. It comes spontaneosly and I know that most of the time most people just want to vent and not be told how to handly things. I choose to continue to work on this. However, I have contained myself as I say to myself that my role is not to teach my wife but to support her in any way possible that fits HER NEEDS and not my need to feel superior.

Funny thing, again prayer really works. By listening to my wife speak, how she answered and even the questions she asked, I have realised that she is in the midst of discovering who she wants to be in this world. This is fantastic for in the past, I have pushed her and cornered her and put pressure on her for her to move in that direction. Now that I have, for a while, stopped coaching and supporting instead, she is ever so slightly taking herself on and that's the best gift a husband can receive, for a fulfilled wife is an ever so loving wife.

thanks again.