Love dare day 22

Love is a choice, not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knee-jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these, " I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don't love me in return."

Questions: Why is this kind of love impossible without the love of Christ beating in your heart? How des His presence within you enable you to love, even when it's primarily one-sided?

Things have been more challenging for me during the last couple of days. The dares or less on my mind and a feeling of frustration towards my wife has slowly sneeked in. Yes, I have the feeling of being the only working on creating a better space and realised that yes, my love was linked to coincidences. If she's likable, I will like her.. something like that.

So today I took the liberty to have a heart to heart with my wife and at first it was almost a "bitching" fest on my part. You don't do this, you should do that... and realised that what I was asking of her, I wasn't ready to do it myself or not on a regular basis at least. So I recommitted to create the space for her to willingly express her love.

To do so by myself is impossible. To allow myself to love regardless of if my spouse is receptive or not is a feat only Christ our savior can master with me. I don't believe that it's humanly possible to love at such a deep and powerful level with only our human intentions. No matter how true the intentions may be.

WOW, so half way through the challenge and I am realising that this book brings you toward a much deeper path than I had expected. Humm... the tide is changing and I'm slowly realising just how much more love I can bring to the game if only I choose to let Christ in and help me.

Thanks