Love dare day 27

Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you're expecting too much, and tell them you're sorry for being so hard on them about it. Promise them you'll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love.

Questions: When you place high expectations on your spouse that they don,t feel internally motivated to attain, what does that tell you about yourself? What are some better ways do deal with these disconnects?

This was a great continuous dare. I believe for the last couple of days, the dare has not been separeted but a series of continous thoughts on pretty much the same subject. Well, for me I guess because everything that I needed forgiveness around and now the unrealistic expectations is based pretty much on the same subject. So what does that tell me? Well it tells me that I'm going at it the wrong way and that putting presure in a nagging form doesn't help create the relationship that I want. Worse, the fact that they don't even want to do the effort because of the expectations of it all could lead to things a lot worse.

Again, communication for me is key and also thinking outside the box. I believe for I have seen it grow over the last 27 days, that being more intuitive with my spouse, making sure her needs are filled creates a space for her to WANT to do the same with me. It's just amazing. So whenever I feel that way again.. that she isn't pulling her weight in turns of MY needs, I can remember this reflexion and ask myself, what have I done for HER lately.

Thanks