Love dare day 13

Talk to your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

Questions: If your spouse participated with you, what was their response? What rules did you write for yourself?

Having already been through a "klemmer" seminar which had taken on this exact same topic, it was quite easy to set up the ground rules for any futur argument. Josianne was very willing and open and we both wondered why we waited over a full year before setting this up. So basically our trigger word is:

• C'est la Crise! It's a french phrase meaning it's on!
• Then we go into 2 minute rounds, where the caller get's first go.
• Rules: No swearing, keep a low voice (no yelling), stay on subject, no going back into the past, no going to sleep angry
• Last but not least, make room for new rules to come in as we progress as a couple and that we learn to keep fighting fare.

Great dare!